“Chasing after my True Lover”

            My wonderful church, here in Atlanta, finished up an amazing series of messages entitled “Boy meets Girl” about three months ago. What a blessing to hear this series. So thankful that my pastor took a stand on numerous issues that we as singles face in the dating world today. It is hard enough in this world as a Christian but as a Christian female in the dating area it is literally a nightmare. Someone please rescue me and my fellow sweet, sisters in Christ from the media telling us that we must have a boyfriend and from the magazines shouting in our faces“10 Ways to Make Him Fall for You.”  Since when did we become the ones “hunting” the men?  I am so sad to see many young girls these days literally throwing themselves at boys just to feel needed and wanted in this world. My heart breaks for these beautiful sisters doing anything just to achieve the love of an earthly man. I want to scream out to them, “Gorgeous sister, you are treasured, you are cherished and you were fought for by your True Lover, Jesus.” The Lord has placed a few things on my heart after listening to this wonderful talk. Through this I have taken away two main points. One, I must have my roots completely grounded in my one true lover, Jesus, before even starting a relationship and two I must trust Him in all of this. I must have trust in the Lord to bring me my prince charming.

            Where is your true happiness and love found? Is it in trying to catch the eye of the handsome man across the room or in trying to become the best Christian woman and future wife you can become? I encourage you sweet sister, that during this time to chase after your one True Lover.  Seek His face and grow in Him. You must be fully rooted in Him before you even think about a dating relationship with an earthly man, who will make mistakes and fail you. I often hear sweet sisters say “that if I just had a boyfriend, everything would be fine and I would be happy.” Dear, sister that is a lie from this world, from the media, and from magazines flooding the racks of stores everywhere. As a fellow sister in Christ I beg you to not enter a relationship with an earthly man with that kind of approach. You are setting that relationship up for failure. No earthly man can give you unfailing love like Jesus can and please to not put that kind of pressure on a brother in Christ. While, I truly believe in a boy and girl meeting, getting married and staying married for life, if you put all your hope in this earthly man when he fails you, and he will, the relationship is going to come crumbling down. This is one reason why the divorce rate is so high because we as women have the mindset, that if I have a man then all my hopes, dreams and fairytales will come true and dear sister that is not reality. While an earthly man can provide you with wonderful love and companionship through this life together he cannot provide you with that deep, perfect, unfailing love.  Jesus is the only man who can bring you that love and peace and you must find your true love in Him before reaching out for the love of an earthly man.  The Lord is jealous for you dear sister and He wants all of your attention and love. He wants to be your one and only.  He wants all of your heart and wants you to seek him in everything, including men. I love how many of us think that the Lord would not be able to pick out our mate but whom better then to pick out our husband then our heavenly Father.  After all, He knows us the best right? He created you, so of course He does.  My dear sister, if you trust in Him for your salvation then you must trust Him with your love life as well. You must place complete trust, peace and rest in His arms through this time.

            As Christian women we must be fully trusting in the Lord Jesus and knowing that He is able and will bring us the desires of our heart ( Psalm 37:4). I am not sure if you are like me but this is something that is hard for me. To completely surrender to the Lord and say “Lord, I trust you to bring my future husband to me.”  I must surrender that though and believe and trust in the Lord for that desire, otherwise I am going to be a wreck in knowing which man is for me and which one is not. (Psalm 37: 7).

“ You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trust in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord , the Lord, is the Rock eternal. “ – Isaiah 26:3-4

I claim this over you dear one. I pray that you and I will trust fully in the name of Jesus in this. That we will trust and have perfect peace as we wait on the Lord to bring our “number 2” man into our life , because remember, Jesus holds our number one spot.

The Lord promises He will not withhold any good thing from us as we walk with Him. We must trust and believe that. (Psalm 84:11).  Take courage in knowing that the Lord can already see this in your future. He can already see what your future looks like and He calls us to simply walk with Him through all of it (Philippians 3:14).  

            One more thing the Lord placed on my heart through hearing this series is that as we wait for our future husband, as future Christian wives we should be praying for our man. I encourage you sweet sister that as you wait, lift your future husband to the throne of Jesus. The Lord knows exactly who your future husband is, so He knows the name that you are lifting up to Him, even though you may not. Pray that your future husband will look to the Lord as the head of his life ( 1 Corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:23). Ask the Lord to bless your future husband with the mind of Christ today and to renew his mind in Christ ( 1 Corinthians 2:16, Romans 12:2). Dear sister, pray for your husbands eyes, that he will not be tempted in this evil world by the evil things of this world (Matthew 6:13, Psalm 37:27-28). Ask God to open your future husband’s eyes to see the mercy of God and faithfulness in this world today. (Lamentations 3:23, Psalm 27:13). Ask the Lord to guide your future husbands feet today directly towards the Lord (Proverbs 4:25-27, Psalm 128:1).  

I am praying for all of you as well and knowing that the Lord has a wonderful plan for your life and has a wonderful man to lead you in this life to bring glory and honor to the name of Jesus together ( Ephesians 5:31). What a beautiful picture. Marriage is a walking example of the relationship we have with Christ (Ephesians 5:25, 32). Get ready dear sister. Pray and prepare to become the woman of your future husband’s dreams!