Security in Him:

“May the Lord answer you when you are in trouble; may the God of Jacob make you secure!”- Psalm 20:1

           

            Alright dear sister I am a little upset. It seriously upsets me when I stand in the line at the store and I see all the headlines plaster across the magazines on the racks. “How to Look Good Enough for Him or “How to Make Him Fall in Love with You.”  Seriously, I am so sick of all the media throwing in the faces of beautiful women these lies that we have to be, good enough for him, thin enough for him, pretty enough for him, and the list goes on and on. Enough, please stop with these lies. Women desire and long to be told they are captivating, desirable and pretty. I completely get it. What woman would not want to hear that come out of the mouth of a man? I will be the first in line to sign up for that.  Any woman would thrive under that kind of affirmation from a man. However, what if no man ever tells you that beloved?  Or what if he only says it, because he wants something or because he is suppose to, but to be honest he is not really feeling it. Dear sister, is there no validation for a woman apart from a man? Do we only think we are valuable and have worth once we catch the eye of a man? From walking through the stores lately, I think that pretty much sums up what the world is telling women now. No wonder we are all plagued with massive insecurities issues.

            Dear one, I am going to be up front and say that men are not our problems but instead, it is what we are trying to get from them that messes us up. In the sweet words of my dear sister Beth Moore,” we use guys like mirrors to see if we’re valuable, beautiful, desirable, and worthy of notice. “  Sweet sisters, we are trying to get confirmation and security from earthly men and even with all the love and compassion, earthly men simply cannot fill that security for you. They barely are getting along with their own security issues that the world is throwing at them as well. They do not have any to spare for us sweet sisters. We must find our true security, worth, and value in the one who created us in His own image. (Genesis 1:27) Beloved you must draw close to the One and only One who can bring you this immense security. We, as women, are bombarded everyday with so much that causes us to have doubts and insecurities and we are craving to find a source that will never run dry.

“The Lord will guide you always ; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land  and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden,  like a spring whose waters never fail. “ Isaiah 58:11

He  alone will satisfy you. Just reflect in all that love for a second. No earthly man can make you as richly satisfied as the Lord. Let’s find our true security in the Lord and not throw all that at the men that come into our life. Show them that you are a strong, Christian woman rooted firmly in the garden of the Lord.  (Side note to add, a man is so much more attracted to a secure woman then to an emotional train wreck who insists he could complete her. )  In the words of another dear sister Christy Nockels, “ Men are not drawn to hysterical needy women.”  Wow, I am humiliated to say that I have played this role in the past but through the trials the Lord has carried me through I am finding my true love and security in Him. He never fails you, He will always be there, you can always trust Him, you can always count on Him and He will never just walk out on you. No other man can make that promise to you dear sister. Not one! Only your True Lover, Jesus can make all those promises and NEVER break them.  Take hope and have faith in Him and show earthly men where you stand. Do not believe the lies of the media, magazines and this world. Claim victory over it and stand strong (Psalm 90:17).  

“He will cover you with feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart” Psalm 90:4